Join us in this captivating episode of the Knomii Podcast, where we explore the complex world of identity, belonging, and the quest for authenticity. Cynthia, a licensed mental health counselor, and Madeline, a trained coach, welcome special guest Milam Miller, Founder of BCK Consulting and Coaching, as they engage in a playful and profound conversation about the nature of our identities and how to find our true place in the world.

In this episode, you can expect to:

Delve into identity and self-expression and how they shape our understanding of ourselves and the world around us
Discuss the difference between fitting in and finding genuine belonging
Share personal stories on belonging and self-awareness
Explore practical tips and advice for embracing our unique selves and cultivating meaningful connections
Learn from special guest Milam Miller on listening to our inner wisdom

Don't miss this engaging and thought-provoking conversation, where we uncover the power of self-awareness and the pursuit of true belonging. Tune in and join us on this incredible journey of unmasking ourselves and embracing our authentic identities.

What We Discussed:

(00:08) Introduction: Belonging and Finding Ourselves

(01:42) What makes you feel like you belong?

(04:34) Did you always feel like you belonged?

(06:24) Fitting in vs. Belonging

(09:44) How to belong to ourselves

(11:09) Tool #1: VIA Character Strengths

(12:30) Help us make The Knomii Podcast Thrive!

(13:10) Tool #2: What's in the locus of your control?

(14:53) Tool #3: What is your name and what does it mean to you?

(16:39) Understanding ourselves precedes others understanding us

(20:54) How to examine and discover our core selves

(21:18) Tool #4: Get curious about where your energy is drawn to and why

(23:47) Tool #5: Fall in love with the journey and how you show up in an experience

(25:37) Tool #6: Bring the qualities of belonging into the spaces you're in

(28:57) Tool #7: Examining our limiting beliefs around belonging

(30:14) Ending with a quote

(31:12) Getting in touch with Milam

(32:45) Closing notes

Quote for Reflection "Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging but often barriers to it." - Tara Brach

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi - apparently this is not the real quote, but rather a summary! The real quote is:

“We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” Maya Angelou

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Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC Host

Madeline Farquharson Host

Milam Miller Guest

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 05/08/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 33 min

Episode 18