In this engaging episode of the Knomii Podcast, Cynthia and Madeline explore the curious challenge of defining and discovering what we truly want in life. Why do we often focus on what we don't want or hope to avoid, instead of zeroing in on our genuine desires?

Our mother-daughter duo takes a deep dive into this conundrum, shedding light on the reasons behind our struggle to pinpoint our true aspirations. Join Cynthia, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Madeline, a trained coach, as they share tips, tricks, and insightful stories that'll inspire you to embrace your inner desires and flip the script on your goals and dreams. Get ready to catch those elusive butterflies of aspiration and embark on a journey towards a more fulfilling life!

In this episode, you can expect:

A lively discussion on the reasons behind our focus on what we don't want
Real-life examples and anecdotes that illustrate the challenges in defining our desires
Practical exercises and strategies to help you uncover your true aspirations
Insightful conversations on how to declutter our minds
Tips on how to break free from the "don't want" mindset and embrace a more proactive approach to self-discovery
The importance of self-awareness and reflection in achieving personal growth and fulfillment
Cynthia and Madeline's own experiences and takeaways from their journey towards embracing their desires

Don't miss this entertaining and enlightening episode of the Knomii Podcast – your go-to source for self-discovery and self-awareness conversations!

What We Discussed:

(01:33) Introduction: What do you want from life?

(03:55) Why we go first to "don't want”

(06:52) Beliefs that hold us back from dreaming

(07:47) Developing a growth mindset

(11:00) Tool #1: Visualizing beyond the obstacles

(13:04) Tool #2: Languaging and how we define things

(15:08) Leaving the judgment and embracing curiosity

(18:04) Help us make The Knomii Podcast Thrive!

(21:31) Developing self-awareness to discover wants

(23:14) Tool #3: Three Wishes

(26:17) The universe only understands "want”

(30:24) Decluttering the mind

(30:49) Episode round up

(33:21) Ending with a quote

(33:43) Free tote bags for topics!

Quote for Reflection "The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car... a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel." - Ben Sweetland “The more you expect from life, the more you can receive!” Cynthia

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Visualize your ideal life: Spend some time imagining your ideal life. What does it look like? What are you doing? Who are you with? This can help you identify what truly matters

Here are some steps you can take to change the conversation to "I want": Identify your goals and values: Take some time to reflect on what is important to you, what you enjoy doing, and what you want to achieve in life. Write down your goals and values, and make sure they are aligned with what you truly want.

Reframe negative thoughts: Whenever you notice yourself focusing on what you don't want, consciously reframe those thoughts into positive ones. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, "I don't want to fail," rephrase it to "I want to succeed."

Visualize what you want: Spend some time visualizing yourself achieving your goals and experiencing the things you want in life. This can help you shift your mindset towards a more positive and growth-oriented perspective.

Take action: Once you've identified your goals and values, take action towards achieving them. Break them down into small, manageable steps and work towards them consistently. Celebrate your progress along the way to keep yourself motivated.

Surround yourself with positivity: Surround yourself with positive people, books, podcasts, and other resources that inspire and motivate you to focus on what you want in life.

Where would you be if you could NAME your fears/obstacles and overcome them?

Three Wishes Visualization Find a quiet and comfortable place where you won't be interrupted. Take a few deep breaths and allow your mind to settle.

Close your eyes and imagine that a magical being has appeared before you. This being has the power to grant you three wishes.

Take a moment to consider what you would wish for. You can choose anything you like, but try to focus on wishes that are meaningful and important to you. It can be helpful to ask yourself what you truly desire in life.

When you're ready, state your first wish out loud. Imagine the magical being granting your wish, and allow yourself to fully experience the joy and fulfillment that comes with it. Imagine how your life will be different as a result of this wish coming true.

Repeat this process for your second and third wishes. Take your time with each wish and allow yourself to fully immerse in the experience of having it granted.

Once you've completed all three wishes, take a few deep breaths and slowly open your eyes. Take a moment to reflect on your experience and the feelings that came up for you during the exercise. You may wish to write down your wishes and any insights (whys) you gained from the visualization.

The Secret

Books: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle "Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think" by Tasha Eurich "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" by Don Miguel Ruiz "Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead" by Brené Brown "The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional and Personal Life" by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander

Podcasts: The Mindset Mentor with Rob Dial The Positive Psychology Podcast with Kristina Gledhill

Hosts & Guests

Cynthia Garrett, LMHC Host

Madeline Farquharson Host

Information

Show: The Knomii Podcast

Published 04/24/2023

Season 1

Rating: Clean

Frequency: Updated Bi-monthly

Length: 35 min

Episode 17